Faith in forever
“When he asks you to spend your life with him, you do say yes. Kasi naniniwala ka that everything will fall into place because of what you have; you will feel it was meant to be. You have faith in forever. For someone who just came from a heartbreak, it was so hard to believe in forever again. And you believed that he wasn’t going to play games. And you believed na meron ka ng lifetime companion.”
Kris added, “Sa trabaho ninyong dalawa, mararamdaman mo na, oo, possible pala na bumuo kayo ng samahan na hindi nakaasa sa mga pabor na puwedeng hingin or ibigay, hindi pera or posisyon ang nag-attract sa inyong dalawa, kundi nag-click ang ugali ninyo.”
The TV host-actress revealed that her sons, Joshua and Bimby accepted her relationship with Herbert because they wanted her (their mom) to be happy. However, Herbert had issues with his children, and their relationship ended.
Understanding and forgiveness
“Unexpectedly, he breaks up with you. You choose to see the breakup from his perspective because you do understand.”
“My two sons were ready to share with me in my love. Tama ang timing sa side ko,” she said.
Even if she’s still hurting, Kris has already forgiven Herbert and tried to understand his situation because she’s a parent herself. Kris admired Herbert’s gesture of personally apologizing to Bimby because the seven-year-old boy knew she was feeling bad.
“You cry yourself to sleep every night kapag 'yung dalawang anak mo ay tulog na para hindi nila makita na umiiyak ka. Then you forgive dahil kahit sinaktan ka, mahal na mahal mo pa rin siya. And kahit paano, humanga ka sa kaniya kasi ito, personal niyang pinuntahan si Bimb. Kinausap niya 'yung anak ko, man to man.”
Hopes for a reconciliation
Kris revealed that before Herbert’s TV interview. she was hoping for a reconciliation.
“Then somehow you find the strength to rebuild the friendship. And when he tells you na babalik siya kapag naayos na ang lahat ng kailangan niyang ayusin, starting with fixing himself, because mahal mo siya, aasa ka.”
However, Herbert’s statement that he and Kris can never get back together again dashed the latter's hopes.
“It wakes you up to reality na wala pala talagang Somewhere down the Road para sa inyo. And you can’t stop crying because 'yung future na akala mo, 'yung pinagdasal mo, that future that kept you going, that dream just disappears.”
True humility
The breakup taught Kris “true humility.”
“Kinailangan ko kasi talaga maramdaman kung ano ang feeling na iwanan ka, ayawan ka. Masakit iyon talaga na ipamukha sa buong mundo, na kahit mahal mo ang isang tao, sa isang live interview, aamin siya na ayaw na niya sa iyo, hindi ka na niya babalikan. And tatanggapin mo iyon.”
Despite what happened, Kris wishes Herbert well. She feels grateful Herbert came into her life and hopes they can still be friends.
“Simple lang yung mensahe ko, true love graciously lets go. Para kay Mayor Herbert, from my heart, I really wish na kung ano ang magpapaligaya sa buhay mo, kung ano ang kukumpleto sa iyo bilang tao, sana lahat ng iyon mapunta talaga sa iyo. Sana makamit mo iyon kasi sa iyo ko natutunan, kinailangan ko talagang matutunan. All my life I was selfish, but in you, I proved to myself na capable pala ako magmahal unconditionally.”
